"I support parents redirecting their children's Sex Education from explicit adult content online to healthy relationships in real life."

“I have met and worked with John on the training we provide at our R.I.S.E seminar series here in North Carolina since 2016. He is addressing a difficult and prolific problem in our State and around the country. I know him to be thoughtful, careful, professional and even funny. His lectures at our trainings routinely receive the highest marks from the participating Administrators, counselors and teachers, and we look forward to his upcoming teachings this summer 2021. He has opened my eyes to a challenge in our State for young people that I was not fully aware of, and solving it with grace and care. I recommend John’s approach to curb online pornography exposure and the harm it can cause young children.”

“John Van Arnam is a friend and a colleague. He has spearheaded a very important effort to protect children from explicit adult material. Early exposure to pornography content has several negative effects for children early in their development and later in their lives. I have watched as John has unflinchingly advocated for parents, teachers and all grown-ups to enter into thoughtful communication with their children, pupils and charges. John is a kind person, who genuinely cares about kids. He is offering an important piece of the solution to a challenge that affects every parent and every child in North Carolina.”

“On behalf of the Alliance Police Department, our school and community, I would like to thank John Van Arnam and The Third Talk for the information and awareness presentation he provided at our high school. John spoke about a very prevalent internet danger, and while we are all aware of its existence, he was able to bring the prevention of explicit internet material into focus in a way that we had not fully appreciated previously. John came to our town at my request, an invitation he accepted easily, and was a pleasure to work with. Throughout his stay he had an opportunity to interact with community leaders and several members of our law enforcement community, and each felt as if they had gained from his knowledge and insight. I would recommend his services to other members of law enforcement, schools, and to communities in general.”

“After years of work as sex therapist here in North Carolina I am proud to endorse John Van Arnam and The Third Talk™. His approach to the prevention of sexually based challenges for our State’s youth is exemplary. It takes tremendous courage for John to lend his name and experience to a topic as controversial as exposure of online pornography to young people. We as adults simply must do a better job of forewarning our children against their inevitable exposure to pornography and John’s program does just that. John is focused on prevention. I encourage you to contact John and protect your family from the damage that this content can cause young children.”

“I have worked in law enforcement for over 24 years and have seen all kinds of bravery. Standing up in a room full of people to address a topic that has been mostly ignored is brave, especially a topic as provocative as online viewing of explicit adult material by young people. John is brave. John has put his name and reputation on the line publicly, to assist our parents and their children defend against a huge and mostly silent challenge for our children; namely the volume of pornography kids see at very early ages. When I first went to see John’s presentation, I did not know what to expect. However his delivery and command of the facts and statistics surrounding this challenge were well presented and easy to hear. He immediately took all the fear and trepidation out of the room, and was very easy to listen to. I would encourage teachers, and especially parents, to reach out to John and have him speak to their young people. His talk is not accusatory or scary, on the contrary it is insightful and thought-provoking. I believe in John and his bravery, and that is exactly what we need in order to address this topic. On a personal note, I have found John to be personable, warm and funny, and genuinely interested in others. I would recommend him and his talk to everyone interested in protecting children and preventing harm. I highly endorse him and I am constantly recommending anyone who is interested or even those who are apprehensive about this topic to come and listen to John’s presentation.”

“John did a presentation at Evergreen last year that was such a big hit, parents personally funded him repeating it a couple of months later so even more could hear his crucial message. He has a way of handling a tough and anxiety-producing topic with grace, authenticity and even humor, making us appropriately concerned for how important this issue is, while also empowering us with tools and confidence to address it with our kids. The real talent is engaging the teens themselves that are also invited to attend. As one said afterwards, “Honestly, it was the last thing in the universe I wanted to go to with my parents, and I’m actually really glad I did. We would’ve never talked about it otherwise…and we really need to.” I highly recommend him!”